A mother provides a real-life demonstration of managing a toddler's tantrum using gentle parenting. She sets firm boundaries regarding throwing objects and redirects the child's energy into safe outlets like throwing pillows and running.
How to Stop a Toddler Tantrum in Under 3 Minutes
A mother provides a real-life demonstration of managing a toddler's tantrum using gentle parenting. She sets firm boundaries regarding throwing objects and redirects the child's energy into safe outlets like throwing pillows and running.
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Dad, Daddy's just doing some work. Did you just throw that cup?
Dad, Daddy's just doing some work. Did you just throw that cup? You don't get to throw cups. No cup is. Cup is done. Now. All done. All done. No more cup. No. No more milky. Threw the cup. That's not allowed. No more milky. I know you threw the cup. Now the cup is all done. We threw the cup. The cup is all done. You're not getting a new cup out of the dishwasher. No, we're going to keep that closed. Puppy, do I need to put you in another room? Cuz you're not listening. We're not getting out a new cuff. We're not getting a new cup. Okay. You upset? That's fine. You can lay down if you'd like. You're not getting a new cup. You threw the cup. Now the cup is finished. We're not throwing other things either. No. Everything you throw, Mommy takes away. No throwing. No. No. Can you just have a moment on the floor? Yeah. You feeling better? Mad. You can stomp or you can clap. Do you want to clap together? Whoa. Good running. Running's good. You can run. Why don't you run in that room and run back with the grass? Ready? Go. Go. Go. Run. Woo. Good running. What are you doing? Are you having fun with the cushions? Are you throwing pillows? Are you throwing my pillows? Monkey, now you're having so much fun, can you throw on more pillows? I like when you throw pillows. We can throw pillows now. Throw cups. Throw pillows? Yes. Pillows are soft. Yeah. Come throw a pillow at me. Let's throw pillows. Ready? Whoa. Okay, ready? Pillow. Throw. You get it? Okay. Ready? Pillow. Hello. Look, is the pillow soft? Is it soft? Yeah. We can throw soft. Oh, you want? And you're jumping off of it. That's a good idea. Looks soft. We can throw it. Ready? Ready. It. It doesn't hurt. Soft. Soft. Soft. Soft. Can I throw it? One, two.
- 01The Immediate Boundary
Identify a specific rule-breaking action and immediately enforce the natural consequence.
- 02Reinforcing the Consequence
Repeat the logic of the consequence to ensure understanding and resist any attempts to bypass it.
- 03Acknowledging Emotions
Validate the subject's frustration without backing down on the established boundary.
- 04Safe Regulation Outlets
Provide 2-3 specific, safe ways for the subject to express their big energy or frustration.
- 05Physical Redirection
Encourage a high-energy movement to burn off adrenaline and shift the focus to a new activity.
- 06The Productive Pivot
Find a safe way for the subject to perform the original 'forbidden' action by changing the item being used.
- 07Playful Integration
Join in the new, safe activity to rebuild connection and end on a positive, high-energy note.